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GOOD PEOPLE,GOOD WORKS
Reverend Will Bowen's Vision of A Complaint Free World - P2/2
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Could a world free of
complaints ever exist?
Just imagine…
Welcome,
enlightened viewers,
to another edition of
Good People, Good Works.
Today on our program
we once again profile
“A Complaint Free World,”
a US-based
non-profit organization
with the mission
to encourage all of us
to end the habit
of complaining
as it results in a far
healthier and happier life.
A Complaint Free World
was founded by
Will Bowen, Lead Minister
of One Community
Spiritual Center
in Kansas City,
Missouri, USA.
The story of
A Complaint Free World
has been featured
on hundreds of US radio
and television programs
as well as in newspapers
across the world.
The reverend has written
two books –
“A Complaint Free World”
and “Complaint Free
Relationships: How to
Positively Transform
Your Personal, Work,
and Love Relationships.”
In December 2009,
he launched his film
“A Complaint Free
Revolution”
which features inspiring
stories of people
from across the USA
and Canada
who have transformed
their lives, relationships
and businesses
by simply ending their
habit of complaining.
I wrote “The
Complaint Free World,”
because I had so many
people asking me questions
about complaining
and everything.
And it was
a number one best seller
in Formosa (Taiwan),
best seller list in China,
and on the best seller list
in Japan.
It’s done very well here
in this country.
I have another book
called, “Complaint Free
Relationships,” because,
most people complain to
or about someone else.
And if you’re complaining
to someone else, you’re
lowering the energy
within the relationship,
and if you’re complaining
about someone else,
there’s been a lot of
research that shows that
you don’t inspire them
to change; if anything,
you inspire them to stay
exactly as they are.
So there’s other ways of
communicating with
people that you can get
your needs met, without
complaining to them.
Best selling author Dr.
Thomas Stanley said that
when we complain about
somebody, they live down
to that expectation.
It reinforces who they are,
and they stay
in that paradigm.
Complaining to somebody
is not going to transform
them; you have never
complained anybody
into positive change,
including yourself!
Carl Palmer,
a program participant,
now explains
what happens
to our internal system
when we complain.
The research says that
when you complain
and you’re negative
you create a chemical
in your brain that
lasts for six seconds.
If you have positive
thoughts in your brain
it creates a chemical
in your brain that affects
your body for six seconds.
If you quit complaining,
you can’t stop
the negative thoughts,
we call them “ANTS”
(Automatic Negative
Thoughts).
You can’t stop them
from coming but when
you give them energy and
putting them out there,
you’re creating negative
things inside yourself.
Studies have shown that
complaining can make
a person less healthy.
We hear the term
“psychosomatic,” well
we are all psychosomatic.
“Psyche, Soma,”
“Mind, Body.”
The mind and the body
are intricately connected,
and the body responds to
the thoughts that are
held in the mind.
Dr. Robin Kowalski
at the University of
Clemson discovered that,
from interviewing
thousands of doctors,
doctors estimate that
they spend as much as
two-thirds of their time
dealing with people
whose physical illness
is either based in
or exacerbated by
their mental processes.
In other words they are
thinking “sick,” and
it is manifesting sick
in their bodies.
As much as two-thirds.
The way she puts it is,
symptoms increase with
symptoms reporting.
Right before we gave out
these Complaint Free
Bracelets
for the very first time,
a man started
attending my church,
his name is Tom Alyea.
Tom suffers from chronic
migraine headaches,
and every day when
he would come home,
his wife Misha would say,
“How was your day?”
Now, Tom, instead of
telling her what happened
during the day, gave her
the headache report.
He’d say, “Well,
on a scale of one to 10,
I had about seven
headaches all day today.”
Now she wasn’t asking
him about his headaches,
but that’s what
he talked about.
And he suffered migraines
the entire time.
Now as part of
becoming complaint free,
Tom stopped complaining
about his headaches.
When Tom stopped
complaining about
his headaches, using the
Complaint Free Bracelet,
Tom no longer has
migraine headaches at all.
This has had such
an impact on Tom,
that Tom is now
the president of the
Complaint-Free-World,
our non-profit organization.
A Complaint Free World
seeks to share its simple,
but powerful philosophy
with the public.
We created a complaint
free school curriculum;
it’s available for free, and
we’ve had thousands of
teachers download that
off from our website,
that’s available for free.
We also have
a complaint-free
organization program
that businesses can use,
and again it’s free,
because we’re
a non-profit.
Now I’m noticing
in the salon, a difference
in the people; we are
a more passionate group.
We have such a contrast
of personalities
throughout the salon, and
it’s amazing because
even when someone gets
in a rut, the rest of us
are focused on keeping
the place positive, and it
brings everyone together
in a whole new outlook
that we’ve never had
before.
We noticed a real big
difference in how the staff
spoke to one another,
how they spoke to
the patients and
the other staff members
within the hospital.
And even when they just
were talking about things,
we noticed that they had
a more positive attitude
when they had
general discussions
within the area.
We will pause now
for a few moments and
when we return, we will
find out more about
A Complaint Free World.
Please stay tuned to
Supreme Master
Television.
Albert Einstein said,
“Reality is just illusion,”
albeit a very persistent
illusion.
Our thoughts create
our lives, and
our words indicate
what we are thinking.
Welcome back to
Good People, Good Works,
where we are spotlighting
A Complaint Free World,
an organization that is
dedicated to informing
people of the benefits of
speaking constructively.
If we want to change
something
or someone’s behavior,
what is best way to
express our feelings
without complaining?
Basically, talking about
your feelings
and your needs, using
a lot of “I” language,
“I feel this way when you
do that,” as opposed to,
“You do that.”
One of the interesting
studies I’ve found is that
most people’s comments
about someone else
are about their behavior.
“You left your socks
on the floor,” that’s
a behavioral comment,
that’s a behavior you did.
What most people hear is,
they hear it personally.
They take it
as a personal attack,
“You’re stupid, you’re
lazy, you’re whatever,
because you left
your socks on the floor,”
even though it’s neutral.
What we have to do
is to understand that
in most cases, people are
going to take what we say
as a request
for behavioral change,
they’re going to take that
as a personal assault.
So in those cases
we have to soften
what we are saying and
even say, “This is not
about you personally.
Would you please do this.
This is about something I
would like for you to do.”
This is about
asking people for what
you want, as opposed to
complaining about what is.
Because one of
the biggest challenges of
complaining is
it keeps you focused on
what’s wrong,
rather than looking for
potential solutions, so
you’ve got to leave behind
what’s wrong, and begin
to ask for what you want.
The greatest example
of a person who did not
just complain was
the Reverend
Dr. Martin Luther King.
In 1963 Dr. King
spoke on the steps of
the Lincoln Memorial
and Dr. King did say that
the United States had
written the American Negro
a check which had
been returned marked
“insufficient funds.”
But we don’t remember
that as “the bad check
speech,” we remember it
as “I have a dream, I
have dream that one day
this nation and indeed
the world will judge
people by the content
of their character
rather than the color
of their skin.”
Dr. King was able to
respond, he did not just
stand there and say,
“Isn’t it awful!” and
get everybody all upset.
Instead he hung a picture
in people’s minds,
a picture that let them
see clearly what he saw
from his vision and his
view from the mountaintop,
he invited us
into his dream.
When you’re living in a
complaint free world, and
you can hear a complaint
and then turn
that complaint around to
a positive, and say, “No,
but what you do have is
a lot hair, and you’ve got
great cheek structure and
bone structure, and
we’re going to work with
your natural beauty to
bring out the best in you.”
The tools of
a complaint free world
give people
that opportunity.
And then the customer
changes within themselves,
and they start to feel
good about themselves,
they start to feel happy.
And so when you leave
the salon experience
you’re immediately going
out to tell a dozen people,
not about
the great haircut you had
but about the great
experience you had and
about the positive energy
you felt when you were
in the salon.
By becoming
complaint free
a constructive energy will
spread from ourselves
outwards and
as those around us also
end this habit,
a transformation of the
world we live in begins.
So when we looked at
various techniques that
are out there that can
lift people’s awareness or
consciousness or that can
transform a community,
what we find is
there are three elements
that consistently apply.
One is that there is
something that everyone
is doing together;
they have agreed to do
something together.
As they begin to do that
together they find
they are thinking and
speaking in alignment,
there is a resonance
that begins to form.
As that resonance begins
to form, then there begins
to be a sense of “We are
bigger than any of us
individually,” and
there’s a joy and a delight
that expands into the
larger community, into
the larger organization.
Ending the habit of
complaining changes
our thinking
and we feel uplifted.
People will often contact
me, and they’ll say,
“You know, I’m just
a happier person
since I’ve done this.”
They’ll say, “Is it
supposed to do that?”
I’ll say, “Yes, of course
it’s supposed to do that!”
The way I like to
look at it is, your brain
is a manufacturer and
your mouth is a customer.
So the manufacturer
is producing
negative thoughts, which
you are articulating
as a complaint.
If the customer will
stop buying what
the manufacturer
is producing, the
manufacturer retools.
Then you literally
become a happier person.
You begin to think and
to hold happier thoughts.
We deeply thank
Reverend Will Bowen
and his organization,
A Complaint Free World,
for helping people
around the globe
shift their patterns of
speech and thought in
a constructive direction
and thus transform
their lives for the better.
May their work continue
to inspire people to
live complaint free lives!
For more details on
A Complaint Free World,
please visit
www.AComplaintFreeWorld.org
Books and other media
by Reverend Bowen
are available at
www.ComplaintFreeWorld.biz
Blissful viewers,
thank you for your
company on today’s
Good People, Good Works.
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after Noteworthy News.
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