Could a world free of
complaints ever exist?
Just imagine…
Welcome,
lighthearted viewers,
to another edition of
Good People, Good Works.
Today we profile
“A Complaint Free World,”
a US-based
non-profit organization
with the mission
to encourage all of us
to end the habit
of complaining
as it results in a far
healthier and happier life.
A Complaint Free World
was founded by
Will Bowen, Lead Minister
of One Community
Spiritual Center
in Kansas City,
Missouri, USA.
The story of
A Complaint Free World
has been featured
on hundreds of US radio
and television programs
as well as in newspapers
across the world.
The reverend has written
two books –
“A Complaint Free World”
and “Complaint Free
Relationships: How to
Positively Transform
Your Personal, Work,
and Love Relationships.”
In December 2009,
he launched his film
“A Complaint Free
Revolution”
which features inspiring
stories of people
from across the USA
and Canada
who have transformed
their lives, relationships
and businesses
by simply ending their
habit of complaining.
One of
the most common questions
I am asked is,
“What is a complaint?”
The dictionary
defines “complain”
as “to express grief, pain
or discontent.”
Now we’re expressing
our complaints,
we speak them aloud
and you would think that
we would be aware of them.
The thing is that
most people complain,
15 to 30 times a day
and have
absolutely no awareness
that they are doing it.
The complaints are
coming out of their mouths;
you would think that
they would hear them,
but they don’t.
I like to say complaining
is like bad breath,
you notice it
when it comes out of
somebody else’s mouth,
but not so much when
it comes out of your own.
What inspired
Reverend Will Bowen
to help others
become complaint free?
Three years ago,
I was doing a series
on prosperity.
I find that people
focus too much on
what is wrong in their lives
as opposed to what is
working in their lives.
And they say they want to
be prosperous, but they’re
so busy complaining
that they’re not going to
manifest anything of value.
So, I gave out
these purple bracelets
one Sunday, and
invited everybody that
every time they caught
themselves complaining,
they’d take the bracelet
off one wrist and
put it on the other wrist.
And they go back and forth
until they go
21 consecutive days,
and we have now sent out
over six million bracelets
to 106 countries
around the world.
Our goal is
to get 60 million people
around the world
to wear these bracelets
and go 21 days
without complaining.
If we can transform
the consciousness
of 60 million people,
that’s just one percent
of the world,
we can transform the
consciousness of the world.
A Complaint Free World
decided that their
sixth millionth bracelet
should be given
to Dr. Maya Angelou,
a prominent
African-American poet
and author, in honor of
her inspirational words
that truly represent the
vision of the organization.
From the very beginning,
we used a quote of her’s
that we thought
symbolized what
we were trying to say.
Becoming complaint-free
is not about shutting up
and sucking up whatever
the world sends you;
it’s about
healthy communication.
If you’ve got an issue,
you speak directly
and only to the person
who can effect the change.
And Dr. Angelou says,
“You don’t like something?
Change it.
If you can’t change it,
change your attitude.
Don’t complain.”
A Complaint Free World
seeks a constructive shift
in our world’s
consciousness, where
people will “focus on
and speak about what
they desire things to be
rather than complaining
about how things are.”
How do I think
the world would be
if one percent of
the world’s population
was complaint free?
Einstein said no genius
has ever used more than
18% of the brain.
But today’s geophysicists
say no genius has ever
used more than 10%
of the brain.
The majority of us mumble
and get around with five,
six, or seven percent.
If we’ve been able to
stay alive at all, alive and
future thinking, alive and
having enough courage
to care for each other,
enough courage to love,
and know that we’re
probably one percent free,
imagine who would we be?
What would happen?
I tell you one thing,
I think war would be
laughed out of the room.
I think the very word,
if somebody said “war,”
another person would say
“You mean am I supposed
to kill somebody because
he doesn’t agree with me?
Ha! I don’t think so.”
If 60 million people were
to become complaint free,
which would be one percent
of the world’s population,
I believe that people
would be so much happier.
When people put
positive energy out and
fill other people’s buckets,
it makes them feel good
and makes other people
feel good and I believe
that putting positive
energy into the world,
into the Universe,
it makes that positive
energy come back to you.
We will pause now
and when we return,
we will find out more about
Reverend Will Bowen’s
A Complaint Free World.
Please stay tuned
to Supreme Master
Television.
I think that the world
would be really
a nicer place and
it would be really good,
in that it would
almost be perfect.
We sit down
before every dinner,
and we sit there
and we go through it,
of what we’re joyful for,
for that day,
and we go back and forth
that I’m thankful for this,
I’m thankful
for this experience,
I’m thankful
for that experience,
and we’re always
focusing on the positive.
And it gets to be a habit,
and we don’t have the
criticism and the negative,
and that’s where it all
started with the bracelet.
Welcome back to
Good People, Good Works,
where we are learning
about a unique
organization called
A Complaint Free World,
a US-based non-profit
organization started by
Reverend Will Bowen
to uplift humanity through
constructive speaking.
Reverend Bowen
first started the movement
in July 2006
with 250 members
of his church
working to end their habit
of complaining.
So we know
complaining is damaging
to every area of our lives;
then how do we become
complaint free?
Well there’s a simple
and easy tool to doing it
and it’s this bracelet
right here.
Now this bracelet,
the Complaint Free
Purple Bracelet
is not a bracelet
that you wear and
it just shows the world
that you support
A Complaint Free World,
this isn’t what this is about.
The idea is every time
you catch
yourself complaining
you take it off one wrist
and you switch it
to the other wrist.
And you switch it
back and forth,
back and forth
with every complaint.
Over 60 million bracelets
have been sent to
106 different countries
thus far.
How has wearing the
Complaint Free bracelet
helped
program participants?
Having the complaint
free bracelet on my wrist,
it’s made me
more aware of
how much I do complain
and it’s helped me cut back,
and I didn’t realize
how much I was
complaining beforehand.
The most challenging
was to accept
when I’d made a remark
or something
that should be classified
as a complaint enough
to move this back
from the right wrist
to the left wrist,
to the left wrist,
to the right wrist.
And to be honest
with myself and not say,
“No that wasn’t something
I have to do that for,”
because I think
it’s real good to be honest
with yourself about this,
that’s the whole idea.
A key component
of the program
is to not complain
for a full 21 days.
Reverend Bowen
now explains
why this time period
is so important.
The idea is
to go 21 consecutive days
without complaining, and
therefore 21 days without
moving the bracelet.
Now
what’s going to happen
is the first several days
you will move it
back and forth
so many times,
people think you have
a nervous disorder,
you just keep switching it
back and forth,
and back and forth.
But in time
you’ll get to where
you’ll go a few hours or
maybe even an entire day.
And then ultimately you
go 21 consecutive days.
Now
why 21 consecutive days?
People believe
it takes 21 days
to form a new habit
and what we want to do
is make being
complaint free habitual
for you.
Is it challenging
to reach the 21st day?
Reverend Bowen
offers his thoughts.
Oh, it’s quite difficult.
And most people
get into it thinking that
it’s going to be easy,
then they discover
how challenging it can be.
It takes anywhere
from four to eight months
I’ve found,
to go 21 consecutive days.
And people get at it
for awhile, and then
they’re embarrassed.
“Oh my gosh!
I’ve been at it
for three months, and
I’m still on day one!”
But that’s typically
the way it works.
It’ll take you
several months to go
one full day, but then
it may take you a week
to go two days,
and then you’re back
on day one, and then
you make it three days.
No one is perfect,
no one is going to
go through the next month
without stumbling
or the next two months
without stumbling.
We all stumble,
the question is
how quickly do we
lift ourselves back up
and put ourselves back
into a place where we are
no longer gossiping, we are
no longer complaining.
Where we’re
using our words in
an appropriate manner.
Our world emanates
from who we are,
so when we change,
our lives change.
I myself have control
over my own life,
and knowing
the power of your words
and the things
that you do with your life,
gives you
a sense of control, and
you can lead your life.
It just gave me
a sense of gratitude.
Some participants of the
A Complaint Free World
program are so enthusiastic
about it they want to
become acquainted with
other like-minded people.
Reverend Bowen
has devised a creative way
to get all those interested
together in one place.
We have found that
people from all over
who have taken this on
want to meet other people,
so we did
A Complaint Free cruise
to the Caribbean last year;
it was very successful.
So this year we’re doing
A Complaint Free cruise
to Alaska (USA).
We’re going to do
a week cruise up to Alaska,
and I’m going to be
speaking and doing
workshops while at sea,
but otherwise
this is just going to be
a wonderful cruise,
and we’re really
looking forward to it.
We salute
Reverend Will Bowen for
his wonderful initiative
that is helping keep people
on a constructive path
in life.
May many more learn of
this splendid program
and experience
the wonderful benefits.
For more details on
A Complaint Free World,
please visit
www.AComplaintFreeWorld.org
Books and other media
by Reverend Bowen
are available at
www.ComplaintFreeWorld.biz
Joyful viewers,
we have enjoyed
your company
on today’s edition of
Good People, Good Works.
Join us next Sunday for
Part 2 of our program on
A Complaint Free World.
Coming up next is
The World Around Us,
after Noteworthy News.
May Heaven
light up your path
with fountains of love,
beauty, and wisdom.
If we were to take
a bird’s eye view of Earth,
what would we see?
This is the premise
behind famed
French photographer
Yann Arthus –
Bertrand’s landmark
eco-documentary
“Home” which depicts
the immense devastation
humanity has caused
to our only planet.
We haven't understood
that we're depleting
what nature provides.
We are destroying
the cycle of a life
that was given to us.
We have forgotten that
resources are scarce.
Please watch Part 2 of
the important film “Home”
Wednesday, March 24,
on Planet Earth:
Our Loving Home.
Could a world free of
complaints ever exist?
Just imagine…
Welcome,
enlightened viewers,
to another edition of
Good People, Good Works.
Today on our program
we once again profile
“A Complaint Free World,”
a US-based
non-profit organization
with the mission
to encourage all of us
to end the habit
of complaining
as it results in a far
healthier and happier life.
A Complaint Free World
was founded by
Will Bowen, Lead Minister
of One Community
Spiritual Center
in Kansas City,
Missouri, USA.
The story of
A Complaint Free World
has been featured
on hundreds of US radio
and television programs
as well as in newspapers
across the world.
The reverend has written
two books –
“A Complaint Free World”
and “Complaint Free
Relationships: How to
Positively Transform
Your Personal, Work,
and Love Relationships.”
In December 2009,
he launched his film
“A Complaint Free
Revolution”
which features inspiring
stories of people
from across the USA
and Canada
who have transformed
their lives, relationships
and businesses
by simply ending their
habit of complaining.
I wrote “The
Complaint Free World,”
because I had so many
people asking me questions
about complaining
and everything.
And it was
a number one best seller
in Formosa (Taiwan),
best seller list in China,
and on the best seller list
in Japan.
It’s done very well here
in this country.
I have another book
called, “Complaint Free
Relationships,” because,
most people complain to
or about someone else.
And if you’re complaining
to someone else, you’re
lowering the energy
within the relationship,
and if you’re complaining
about someone else,
there’s been a lot of
research that shows that
you don’t inspire them
to change; if anything,
you inspire them to stay
exactly as they are.
So there’s other ways of
communicating with
people that you can get
your needs met, without
complaining to them.
Best selling author Dr.
Thomas Stanley said that
when we complain about
somebody, they live down
to that expectation.
It reinforces who they are,
and they stay
in that paradigm.
Complaining to somebody
is not going to transform
them; you have never
complained anybody
into positive change,
including yourself!
Carl Palmer,
a program participant,
now explains
what happens
to our internal system
when we complain.
The research says that
when you complain
and you’re negative
you create a chemical
in your brain that
lasts for six seconds.
If you have positive
thoughts in your brain
it creates a chemical
in your brain that affects
your body for six seconds.
If you quit complaining,
you can’t stop
the negative thoughts,
we call them “ANTS”
(Automatic Negative
Thoughts).
You can’t stop them
from coming but when
you give them energy and
putting them out there,
you’re creating negative
things inside yourself.
Studies have shown that
complaining can make
a person less healthy.
We hear the term
“psychosomatic,” well
we are all psychosomatic.
“Psyche, Soma,”
“Mind, Body.”
The mind and the body
are intricately connected,
and the body responds to
the thoughts that are
held in the mind.
Dr. Robin Kowalski
at the University of
Clemson discovered that,
from interviewing
thousands of doctors,
doctors estimate that
they spend as much as
two-thirds of their time
dealing with people
whose physical illness
is either based in
or exacerbated by
their mental processes.
In other words they are
thinking “sick,” and
it is manifesting sick
in their bodies.
As much as two-thirds.
The way she puts it is,
symptoms increase with
symptoms reporting.
Right before we gave out
these Complaint Free
Bracelets
for the very first time,
a man started
attending my church,
his name is Tom Alyea.
Tom suffers from chronic
migraine headaches,
and every day when
he would come home,
his wife Misha would say,
“How was your day?”
Now, Tom, instead of
telling her what happened
during the day, gave her
the headache report.
He’d say, “Well,
on a scale of one to 10,
I had about seven
headaches all day today.”
Now she wasn’t asking
him about his headaches,
but that’s what
he talked about.
And he suffered migraines
the entire time.
Now as part of
becoming complaint free,
Tom stopped complaining
about his headaches.
When Tom stopped
complaining about
his headaches, using the
Complaint Free Bracelet,
Tom no longer has
migraine headaches at all.
This has had such
an impact on Tom,
that Tom is now
the president of the
Complaint-Free-World,
our non-profit organization.
A Complaint Free World
seeks to share its simple,
but powerful philosophy
with the public.
We created a complaint
free school curriculum;
it’s available for free, and
we’ve had thousands of
teachers download that
off from our website,
that’s available for free.
We also have
a complaint-free
organization program
that businesses can use,
and again it’s free,
because we’re
a non-profit.
Now I’m noticing
in the salon, a difference
in the people; we are
a more passionate group.
We have such a contrast
of personalities
throughout the salon, and
it’s amazing because
even when someone gets
in a rut, the rest of us
are focused on keeping
the place positive, and it
brings everyone together
in a whole new outlook
that we’ve never had
before.
We noticed a real big
difference in how the staff
spoke to one another,
how they spoke to
the patients and
the other staff members
within the hospital.
And even when they just
were talking about things,
we noticed that they had
a more positive attitude
when they had
general discussions
within the area.
We will pause now
for a few moments and
when we return, we will
find out more about
A Complaint Free World.
Please stay tuned to
Supreme Master
Television.
Albert Einstein said,
“Reality is just illusion,”
albeit a very persistent
illusion.
Our thoughts create
our lives, and
our words indicate
what we are thinking.
Welcome back to
Good People, Good Works,
where we are spotlighting
A Complaint Free World,
an organization that is
dedicated to informing
people of the benefits of
speaking constructively.
If we want to change
something
or someone’s behavior,
what is best way to
express our feelings
without complaining?
Basically, talking about
your feelings
and your needs, using
a lot of “I” language,
“I feel this way when you
do that,” as opposed to,
“You do that.”
One of the interesting
studies I’ve found is that
most people’s comments
about someone else
are about their behavior.
“You left your socks
on the floor,” that’s
a behavioral comment,
that’s a behavior you did.
What most people hear is,
they hear it personally.
They take it
as a personal attack,
“You’re stupid, you’re
lazy, you’re whatever,
because you left
your socks on the floor,”
even though it’s neutral.
What we have to do
is to understand that
in most cases, people are
going to take what we say
as a request
for behavioral change,
they’re going to take that
as a personal assault.
So in those cases
we have to soften
what we are saying and
even say, “This is not
about you personally.
Would you please do this.
This is about something I
would like for you to do.”
This is about
asking people for what
you want, as opposed to
complaining about what is.
Because one of
the biggest challenges of
complaining is
it keeps you focused on
what’s wrong,
rather than looking for
potential solutions, so
you’ve got to leave behind
what’s wrong, and begin
to ask for what you want.
The greatest example
of a person who did not
just complain was
the Reverend
Dr. Martin Luther King.
In 1963 Dr. King
spoke on the steps of
the Lincoln Memorial
and Dr. King did say that
the United States had
written the American Negro
a check which had
been returned marked
“insufficient funds.”
But we don’t remember
that as “the bad check
speech,” we remember it
as “I have a dream, I
have dream that one day
this nation and indeed
the world will judge
people by the content
of their character
rather than the color
of their skin.”
Dr. King was able to
respond, he did not just
stand there and say,
“Isn’t it awful!” and
get everybody all upset.
Instead he hung a picture
in people’s minds,
a picture that let them
see clearly what he saw
from his vision and his
view from the mountaintop,
he invited us
into his dream.
When you’re living in a
complaint free world, and
you can hear a complaint
and then turn
that complaint around to
a positive, and say, “No,
but what you do have is
a lot hair, and you’ve got
great cheek structure and
bone structure, and
we’re going to work with
your natural beauty to
bring out the best in you.”
The tools of
a complaint free world
give people
that opportunity.
And then the customer
changes within themselves,
and they start to feel
good about themselves,
they start to feel happy.
And so when you leave
the salon experience
you’re immediately going
out to tell a dozen people,
not about
the great haircut you had
but about the great
experience you had and
about the positive energy
you felt when you were
in the salon.
By becoming
complaint free
a constructive energy will
spread from ourselves
outwards and
as those around us also
end this habit,
a transformation of the
world we live in begins.
So when we looked at
various techniques that
are out there that can
lift people’s awareness or
consciousness or that can
transform a community,
what we find is
there are three elements
that consistently apply.
One is that there is
something that everyone
is doing together;
they have agreed to do
something together.
As they begin to do that
together they find
they are thinking and
speaking in alignment,
there is a resonance
that begins to form.
As that resonance begins
to form, then there begins
to be a sense of “We are
bigger than any of us
individually,” and
there’s a joy and a delight
that expands into the
larger community, into
the larger organization.
Ending the habit of
complaining changes
our thinking
and we feel uplifted.
People will often contact
me, and they’ll say,
“You know, I’m just
a happier person
since I’ve done this.”
They’ll say, “Is it
supposed to do that?”
I’ll say, “Yes, of course
it’s supposed to do that!”
The way I like to
look at it is, your brain
is a manufacturer and
your mouth is a customer.
So the manufacturer
is producing
negative thoughts, which
you are articulating
as a complaint.
If the customer will
stop buying what
the manufacturer
is producing, the
manufacturer retools.
Then you literally
become a happier person.
You begin to think and
to hold happier thoughts.
We deeply thank
Reverend Will Bowen
and his organization,
A Complaint Free World,
for helping people
around the globe
shift their patterns of
speech and thought in
a constructive direction
and thus transform
their lives for the better.
May their work continue
to inspire people to
live complaint free lives!
For more details on
A Complaint Free World,
please visit
www.AComplaintFreeWorld.org
Books and other media
by Reverend Bowen
are available at
www.ComplaintFreeWorld.biz
Blissful viewers,
thank you for your
company on today’s
Good People, Good Works.
Up next is
The World Around Us,
after Noteworthy News.
Wishing you eternal
happiness, peace, and
the grace of Heaven.
In 2009,
French photographer
Yann Arthus–-Bertrand
directed a landmark
eco-documentary
about the dire state
of our planet’s biosphere,
and in closing,
left us with an important
takeaway message:
It's time to come together.
What's important
is not what's gone,
but what remains.
We still have half
the world's forests,
thousands of rivers,
lakes and glaciers,
and thousands
of thriving species.
Join us for the conclusion
of the insightful film
“Home”
Wednesday, March 31,
on Planet Earth:
Our Loving Home.
“Speciesism”
is a belief system where
individuals favor
their species over others.
The award-winning
documentary “Earthlings,”
by vegan US filmmaker
Shaun Monson,
examines the cruelty that
results from speciesism
and emphasizes
that it must stop.
We must learn to see
into the eyes of an animal
and feel that
their life has value
because they are alive.
Join us for Part 1 of
this important film
Tuesday, March 30
on Stop Animal Cruelty.